Creative Ideas to Make a Woman Feel Loved

If the way into a man's heart is his stomach, then the road into a woman's is infinitely more intricate and arduous. It is a road you have to build yourself, stone by paved stone. The way a woman feels loved is not by the big things you do (e.g., marrying her, having a job, helping with the kids) but by the multitude of small, tiny, miniscule things you do each day. I'm trying to help you out here by putting my creativity to work and giving you a list of things women would like. These are real-life examples: either things men have done for me that I loved and cherished, or things I had to do for myself while wishing the man in my life would have offered to do them instead. Remember, a woman does not feel loved by one big thing every once in a while... she feels secure and loved by a steady stream of service, gifts, and compliments that may seem small at the time but eventually add up to years of feeling loved and cared for. Do these, one or two a day, and in a few weeks or months your wife will start feeling you really, truly love her--which you do.

While this can include the cliche things like surprising her with flowers or taking her out on a date, try to go beyond the cliche and expected with this list. Ideas include:

• instead of a bouqet of flowers, bring her a single rose every day for a week, each with a sweet note attached
• stop by somewhere on the way home and bring home her favorite snack or ice cream
• notice what book she's reading and ask her about it. Ask what happens and why she likes it. Really listen.
• Hug her after work and tell her you missed her.
• Text her a few times a day, just to check in and say you miss her.
• Send each other emails at work.
• Come up with a secret pet name just for the two of you. Call her that in texts and emails, but never when anyone is around.
• Rub her shoulders or play with her hair while she's cooking dinner, brushing her teeth, or doing dishes
• One morning when you both have the day off, announce to her this day is all about her. Tell her you do not want her to get out of bed unless she has to. Make breakfast for the two of you and eat it in bed. Then whip out a new movie or a book by her favorite author you know she's never read and a package of her favorite cookies, ice cream, or soda (you'll have to plan this), tell her to relax and enjoy, and leave her in bed to veg happily. Come in around lunchtime to check on her, see if she needs anything, and bring a snack for the two of you to eat together.
• Buy a devotional book for couples and suggest you two read it together, spending time in the Word each day. Then you have to follow through! You are in charge of making sure the two of you keep up with the devotional every day--otherwise you'll lose more points for lack of follow-through than you gained with the idea.
• When you know a movie is coming out she's been dying to buy, or the latest installment of a series she loves, go to the store the day it comes out and buy it for her. Don't let her buy it herself! This lets her know you pay attention to her and will always bring a special memory with that book or movie.
• In crowded areas, when other men look at her or try to hit on her, put your arm protectively around her shoulders, look the guy in the eye, and ask, "Is he bothering you, honey?"
• Skip the ballgame or time with the guys one day. Tell her you miss her and would rather spend some time with her.
• Take her out to a movie, buy her popcorn and drinks even if she insists you don't, and hold hands in the movie. Afterward, take your photos in the funny photo booth or play games at the arcade.
• When standing together in public, wrap your arm around her, hold her hand, or keep your hand at the small of her back.
• Whenever you two are escorted to a table, stand back let her sit down first; ladies should always be seated with their backs to the wall, facing the room, or where ever has the best view.
• Always help her take her coat off and help her put it back on.
• Offer to carry her purse or the baby.
• At movies, you lead the way down the aisle (you choose the row!), then stand back and allow her to enter the row first.
• At church, let her enter the row before you and leave the row before you. Stand back and let her pass.
• In crowded areas, put your hand on her waist or the small of her back to guide her.
• Fill her car's tank up with gas, even when it doesn't need it, just so she doesn't have to.
• Write her small notes. Leave them in her purse, leave them on her windshield, stick them in her drawer or on the mirror, or place it in her bible. A simple phrase or sentence telling her something you love about her or that you're thinking of her will do.
• Buy her a small, inexpensive trinket: earrings, lipstick, flowers, or something else she enjoys.
• Surprise her by cleaning the house.
• When you know she is dreading doing something, do it for her without mentioning it or asking her beforehand. She'll notice!
• Once a day, ask her, "How are you feeling today?" or "Are you happy today? Is there anything I can do to make you happier?"
• Bring her Kleenex when she cries or has a cold, not toilet paper.
• Pick her up and hold her sometimes for no reason. (Note: a pick-her-up-and-wrap-her-legs-around-your-waist move will just seem sexual and is also uncomfortable for women to hold. To send a romantic, loving vibe instead of a horny, come-on vibe, scoop her up in your arms the way you would a small child.
• Play with her hair.
• In the shower, shampoo and condition her hair for her.
• When you see her brushing her hair, take the brush from her and do it instead.
• When she's in the shower, put the towels in the dryer for a few minutes to get them warm and soft. Then replace them right before she gets out.
• If she is thirsty or cold at night, get up to get her a blanket or glass of water.
• If the phone or doorbell rings when you two are in bed, you be the one the get up and get it.
• Be over-protective of her.
• Worry about her, and let her know it. Ask her to call you when she arrives somewhere safely after a long trip.
• Call or text her to say good luck when she has a big day. The fact that you remembered will say a lot.
• Write her letters telling her you love her and long for her. Don't be afraid to be romantic, since no one else will read it and women love that stuff.
• One day, rent a movie and plan a surprise carpet picnic. Spend the day on a blanket on your floor, watching the tv and snacking on your "picnic."
• When she is sick to her stomach, hold her hair back or bring her a cool washcloth afterward and gently wipe her face.
• Bring her flowers every time you pick her up at the airport or train station.
• Instead of buying a bouquet, place a single rose in various places around the house, each with a sweet note.
• Clean her car out for her. Wash the outside, vacuum the inside, and shake out the foot mats. Leave it with a full tank of gas for her to enjoy.
• Take her to a bookshop and wonder around, noticing what she likes. Later, when she is having a bad day, go back and buy something she liked. Present her with it, saying, "I remembered you liked this. I hope it will make you feel better."
• If she likes to read, get her hooked on a series of books. If you buy her the first book of the series, and she loves it, you have a solid gold assurance she will love the rest of your gifts! Pay attention to when she finishes each book, and present her with the next one the next day. Not only is this a gift she can enjoy many times, but it will give her a special memory and she will remember your gift each time she reads those books. (For ideas on books that come in a series, try Twilight, Eragon, Ender's Game, Harry Potter, The Lord of the Rings, Dark Sun Rising, Left Behind, Out of the Silent Planet, The Giver, Anne of Green Gables, Tiger, Tiger, or simply finding an author she enjoys such as Jodi Picoult, C.S. Lewis, Mary Higgins Clark, Agatha Christie, Francine Rivers, Tom Clancy, and many others...
• Take her shopping and buy her her favorite outfit.
• Do funny things together, like fingerpainting, having a naked food fight, playing hide and go seek, wrestling, playing hide and go seek in the dark, having her run in the mall and seeing if you can find her, or making a random shopping list and racing in the grocery store to see who can get the most ingredients first.
• Play video games together. (If you don't have a video game set, play computer games like Text Twist, or play card games for two like Speed, War, Crazy 8s, or Phase 10.
• When she is sick and has a fever, offer to massage her thighs and calves; this often makes aching, feverish muscles feel better.
• When she says she had a bad dream, don't nod and go back to sleep. Wake up, hug her, and ask her to tell you about it. If she didn't want to talk about it, she wouldn't have woken you up.
• Get a colored pen and write her letters, notes, songs, poems, or just copy famous poems for her in her favorite color.
• Take her shopping to smell different colognes. Buy her favorite, and wear it every day, especially when you two are fighting or haven't seen each other in a long time.
• Every once in a while, when you go out to eat, order the appetizer or dessert. Tell her she's worth the extra money.
• Stop whatever you are doing when she comes home. Cuddle with her and ask her about her day. Then go back to whatever you were doing.
• When someone else has offended or upset her, offer to intervene.
• Wake her up at night with lighted candles, flowers, and music for a special occasion or anniversary.
• Tell her how great she smells.
• When you hug her, wrap both your arms around her and squeeze her tightly; don't do the half-hearted one-armed hug.
• Always kiss her goodnight.
• Before she leaves in the morning, stand with her at the door and quickly pray over her. Shower her with prayer for protection, wisdom, safety, and peace during her day.
• Watch her sleep and tell her about how cute she looked later.
• Cover her up with a blanket in her sleep.
• If she has cramps, put her in bed with a heating pad, a bottle of water, and some painkillers. Give her a book or movie and let her rest.
• Surprise her by planning a trip and refusing to tell her where she's going. Pack for her so she doesn't see what kind of clothes you're taking for her! Once you arrive at the airport, give her a small makeup bag and tell her it's her "trip survival bag." Put in it whatever will tell her what the trip entails--some sunblock for the beach, coupons for a massage at a resort, gloves for a ski trip, condoms and massage oil for a romantic weekend, etc.
• Make her a 12-month calendar, each month with pictures of the two of you. She can take it to work and show you off to all your friends!
• make the bed in the morning before she has a chance to
• Help her out of her coat and hang it up in the closet when you both get home
• buy her sexy lingerie for no reason at all. Tell her it's because she's beautiful.
• Ask her how you can be a better lover. Ask her to give you three things you do well in bed and three things you can improve on. Then improve them.
• Send her flowers or balloons to work. She'll love the attention she gets from co-workers.
• Offer to do something together: take ballroom dancing, join a choir or theatre group, volunteer at church, or join a sports team.
• Go ice-skating and hold hands.
• Give her the better pillow.
• When you shower together, let her hog the hot water.
• Find a scent she likes and invest in candles, incense, or spray for the house.
• brush your teeth or use mouthwash before you see her or kiss her (gum doesn't work and gets in the way). Women are usually sensitive to smell and she'll notice you put forth the effort!
• Play the alphabet game in the car.
• Ask her to name her first memory of you. In order, take turns sharing your memories, from first to now. It is a good re-cap of your relationship!
• Hold the umbrella when it rains.
• Drop her off at the door and walk in from the parking lot yourself.
• Get all doors, even when there are two.
• Help her with heavy or high-up objects before she has to ask.
• Open her car door when she gets in.
• Walk on the outside of the sidewalk, nearer the street.
• Offer her your coat when she is cold.
• Put your arm around her and hold her hand with your other hand when you are sitting together, such as at church or the movies.
• When in public, always make a point to be touching her in some way.
• When she wears her hair up with bobby pins, don't let her take them out herself. Gently take her hands and place them at her sides, then take them out yourself.
• Help her get zippers and jewelry on and off, even when she doesn't ask or seem to need your help.
• Carry three or four bags for every bag she's carrying.
• Tell her how proud you are of her and why.
• Brag on her (her looks, her accomplishments, her cooking, her job, her hobbies) in public, to your friends, and to your family members. Make sure she can hear you, or tell her about it later.
• Find out how to say "I love you" in several languages.
• Sing to her. (Note: this only works if you have a halfway decent voice, OR if she is not a singer. If she is a musician and will know when you are offkey, don't bother--you'll just hurt her ears!)
• Tell her you rushed home because you couldn't wait to be with her.
• Ask for her advice or comfort when you are confused, angry, sad, or hurt. Don't try to handle everything on your own; women love to feel needed.
• Find delicious finger-foods and feed them to her.
• Use words to describe her other than "beautiful." Try fascinating, breathtaking, delicate, amazing, exquisite, everything I ever wanted, every man's dream, etc.
• Go above and beyond. Example: if she is sick and asks you to bring her sprite, come back with sprite, chicken soup, cough drops, extra-soft kleenex, and cold medicine.
• Be concerned and worried about her physical, emotional, and mental health. Remember to ask about it and follow up when she does mention something.
• Mention how happy you are with her in your life. Give examples. Tell her why you think you're lucky to have her. When other guys are jealous of you, brag about it to her.
• At every meal, offer her a bite of your food. Rather than handing the food to her on a fork, hold your fork out to her and feed her yourself. (Don't try this with messy or liquidy foods--save it for safe foods!)
• Tuck her into bed, rub her feet, scratch her back, or massage her temples. Come up with a good-night routine, such as reading from the Bible or praying together, that you do together every night. This will relax her and help both of you sleep better.

I'm sure there are more, but that should suffice....

Basically, if she wants it, make sure she has it.

If she mentions it, make sure you remember it.

If it makes her smile, do it again.